Beauty Standards

About a week ago, I shared something on my social media about how I’ve been on my “natural hair journey” for 4 years and I still can’t lay my edges. Yesterday, my friend and flatmate made a comment about how we should “free ourselves from the shackles of laid edges.” That’s the story of how this blog post was born.

The standard of beauty is an extremely variable standard. The idea of beauty is always changing. One minute, you need to have fair skin to be beautiful, the next minute you don’t. One minute you have to be really slender to be beautiful and the next, you have to be thicker than a bowl of oatmeal to be beautiful. One minute straight hair is the way to go and the next, you need to have natural hair/curls. It is not consistent at all.

Hair
Photo by Calvin Lupiya

The media is one place that intentionally and unintentionally promotes these unrealistic beauty standards. Let this be your reminder, especially if you’re one who falls prey to the curse of the standard, to curate your social media feeds. We have a say in what we consume and I say let go of anything that makes you feel inferior or not beautiful enough.

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Wanting to meet these toxic beauty standards, or to fit into the criteria, can lead to depression, anorexia, loss of confidence and many other negative effects. Your mental and physical health can suffer as a result of wanting to meet toxic beauty standards.

You are beautiful. Don’t lose yourself trying to meet a standard that can’t even stay consistent. A standard that doesn’t even care about you. Don’t let society put pressure on you. Don’t fall prey to social media standards.

If you ever want to change something about your body or the way you look, let it be a choice that you consciously make for yourself and to satisfy yourself. It shouldn’t be a choice made to satisfy a variable standard and system where one day you are the poster child of beauty and the next day you are not.

Let us free ourselves from the shackles of beauty standards.

Thanks for reading!
Love,
Wonani Xx


Hey guys! It’s day 8 of the Afrobloggers WinterABC 2021. This week is advocacy week and today, I would like to remind us to do away with unrealistic beauty standards. I am advocating for the death of toxic beauty standards.
Also, I’m doing my best to balance the challenge and uni. I’m currently trying to finish up with my thesis, I have to defend it in a few weeks so that’s a lot of work, plus exams. Regardless, I’m going to do my best to work everything out. (Pray for me lol)

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27 thoughts on “Death To Toxic Beauty Standards

  1. I gave up on this edges thing, first it is finding the right oil for it then suffering with my 4c to actually sleep for a minute or atleast wait till I step out of the house. Th pressure is real and the internet is not a kind place for the faint herated, well said Wonani

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  2. This is totally unrelated but dayummm, that featured image is soooo cool! ๐Ÿ˜ I stole it already! ๐Ÿคญ

    Oh, BTW, my hair is too kinkily stubborn for the edges to lay. I don’t even bother ๐Ÿคง

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    1. I know right!! It’s so cool and she is so beautiful ๐Ÿ˜ญ

      ๐Ÿ˜‚ honestly that is the source of my problems too. I haven’t found a gel that actually holds my hair.

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  3. Wow…first time reading your blog…
    SENSE…๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ’ž
    AM TOUCHED
    most females have fallen prey
    It’s not easy but we need to really free ourselves

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    1. Yes please!!

      What stops me from learning is that first of all, I can’t even find a gel that keeps my hair laid ๐Ÿ˜‚ when I cross that bridge, maybe I’ll try again ๐Ÿคญ

      Thanks soul sister โค

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